The life I have always wanted…

Here it is:

“But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments,23 not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely.”

Gal 5:22

I haven’t been able to get away from that verse for three weeks.  Every time I pick up my little message bible I have to read it one more time.  It’s like something you have always wanted but didn’t think was possible.   I want everything it describes.

Check out this interesting video on what motivates us.

You have to recognize what season of life you are in,” He said in response to my question

“Guy, it’s all about you!”  -MK

Everyone should have important people in their life.  Someone who can give you advice and tell you when you are about to blow it.  One of those people for me is Matt Keller.

Last week he was explaining ministry responsibility.

He began to tell me 3 phases of a Christian’s life.  (He learned them from a book.)

Divine Foundation (Phase 1)

Happens from birth to 18 years old.  This is when the foundation is poured.  God is setting up things when you don’t even know it.  Maybe I grew up hunting, shooting guns, home schooling and in church for a reason.

Second Phase

1st or primarily God is working in the leader. Secondary God is working through the leader.
He stresses this is the phase I am in now.  (hints the title of the post.)

Third Phase

It flips… God works primarily through the leader. And secondary is what God does in the leader.

What God is Doing

Some girls think its all about them. That’s another topic.  What I am talking about is realizing that God is working on us and training us so we can be used.  He cares enough about us to train us. Clearly, I am in the second phase. God does more in me than he does through me.  I’m finally okay with that.  A few years ago, I would be trying to force my way to the next phase. But I learning to enjoy the season of life that I am in.

I found this little piece of paper. I kind like the simple questions.  Its funny how easy they are to answer when your 8.  Why do they get more difficult the older you get?

Today I had lunch alone at Jason’s Deli.  Don’t feel sorry for me.  Time alone is enjoyable plus I really wanted to read some of Billy (my boss’s) old leadership notes.

As I began to eat, I couldn’t help but notice four little kids come in.  Three boys with blonde hair and one little girl.  Their moms got in line to order while the kids rushed off to get a table.

“Who is the meanest girl? Who is the nicest boy?”

Asked the little girl while she was looking at her kindergarten yearbook.  The boys would point to a picture after each question.

First, I thought, aren’t little kids cute. Then it hit me, bad habits start so young.  We learn to judge and rank people from an early age.  I wish I wasn’t guilty, but I am.

Solution:

As you know, much of my so called “wisdom” comes from movies.  So here goes…

“Calling somebody else fat won’t make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid doesn’t make you any smarter. And ruining Regina George’s life definitely didn’t make me any happier. All you can do in life is try to solve the problem in front of you.” – Cady from Mean Girls

Will take that little girl as long as me to start figuring this out?

Top 5 quotes from this video:

5. You guys suckered me into church planting.

4. Maybe we made a mistake. Lord how could you do this.

3. Everyone will have a low moment. Always pray never give up!

2. How could I quit pastoring to plant a church?

1. Naivete is the greatest spiritual gift for church planting.

Sometimes life is just too important to blog about.  Don’t get me wrong, I love writing.  Communication is an important part of everyone’s life.  I’m just learning that you have to have priorities.  A great blog isn’t something to loose your [fill in the blank] over.

Today I prayed for someone.  And no it wasn’t a prayer like this:

A guy named Ricky came to spray my house for roaches.  During our conversation, he mentioned a relationship problem he was having.  Actually, he was in the middle of a divorce.  As he was leaving, something told me to pray with him.   A little out of my comfort zone, I asked his permission and we said a short prayer.  “God be in this stage of life and in this relationship.”  It was short, I didn’t have the “perfect words” to say, only acknowledged that God existed and asked him to be part of what was happening.

This short time was very moving for me today.

Sorry, I didn’t write this…

It was one of those forwarded spam emails from a friend.  Normally I click delete, but I thought this one was good.

Here it comes:

“What Would Happen if We treated our Bible like we Treat our Cell Phones?

What if we carried it around in our purses or pockets?

What if we flipped through it several times a day?

What if we turned back to go get it if we forgot it?

What if we used it to receive messages from the text?

What if we treated it like we couldn’t live without it?

What if we gave it to Kids as gifts?

What if we used it when we traveled?

What if we used it in case of emergency?

This is something to make you go….hmm…where is my Bible?

Oh, and one more thing.

Unlike our cell phone, we don’t have to worry about our Bible being
disconnected because Jesus already paid the  bill.

Makes you stop and think ‘where are my priorities? And no dropped calls!

When Jesus died on the cross, he was thinking of you!”

This was one of those chain e-mail I received.  Since I never send spam emails I thought I would post it here on my blog.

The great thing is our culture is shifting toward this mindset.

This is a great book for any business that requires a group of people (team) to be successful.  It is a quick easy read that uses a story to teach important lessons (See 5 Dysfunctions Model Below .)

Everything in the book revolves around this model.

The author gives several exercises to help overcome each of the five dysfunctions.

Here is a sample exercise for concurring the “Absence of Trust”

Personal Histories Exercise: In less than an hour, a team can take the first steps toward developing trust. This low risk exercise requires nothing more than going around the table during a meeting and having team members answer a short list of questions about themselves. Questions need not be overly sensitive in nature and might include the following: number of siblings, Hometown, unique challenges of childhood, favorite hobbies, first job, and worst job.  Simply by describing these relatively innocuous attributes or experiences, team members begin to relate to one another on a more personal basis, and see one another as human beings with life stories and interesting backgrounds. It is amazing how little some team members know about one another, and how just a small amount of information begins to break down barriers.

I think this model will help more than businesses it will work for  relationships too!

The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

By Patrick Lencioni