My wife Courtney got me this book for Christmas. I finished it in less than 10 days. Couldn’t put it down.

The author (Howard Wasdin) shares stories about his experience as an Elite Navy Seal Sniper (and how his upbringing prepared him for the military.)  He was in the battle featured in the movie “Black Hawk Down.” It is crazy to hear it from his point of view.

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It was interesting to hear how his life revolved around “THE TEAM” and how hard it was to adjust coming back after being wounded. I learned some military terms.  Now I can talk to my buddy Charlie (who was in the Marines) and sound like I know what I am talking about.

Check it out!

The 21 Laws of leadership - John maxwellI just finished The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John Maxwell. Great book. Here is one thing that stuck out.

Activity vs Accomplishment

If I could pick one law to share with you it would be Law 17 — The Law of Priorities. “Leaders understand that activity is not necessarily accomplishment.” After two years staying busy at ARC, I have realized leadership lessons are easy to read and hard to live out.  It is easy to stay busy, but hard to stay focus and accomplish important task.

Maxwell says, “When we are busy, we naturally believe that we are achieving. But busyness does not equal productivity.”

If you want to learn about the other 20 laws you will have to read or listen to the book yourself.  Buy the audio book here…

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I finished another book. This one was awesome.   I love Pastor Craig Groeschel’s book’s.

Five Awseome Takeaways – The Christian Atheist by Craig Groeschel

  1. The Tag Line-  Believing in God but living like he doesn’t exist.
  2. No fights before marriage.  He and his wife didn’t have a fight until 3 years into their marriage.   People said that Courtney and I had to  have a fight (disagreement) before we got married.  Thanks for the advice.  NOT
  3. Preparation- studying and thinking about what you’ll say will give you confidence.  Especially in sharing your faith     He used this verse: “Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” 1 Peter 3:15 Sharing my faith is difficult for me. If I spend time in preparation maybe this will get easier/ more effective.
  4. He say’s this one pretty well so here is a picture from the book : Christain Athiest quote
  5. He was addicted to adrenaline.   I’m still getting over mine.

Steven Furtick also read this book

This is a great book for any business that requires a group of people (team) to be successful.  It is a quick easy read that uses a story to teach important lessons (See 5 Dysfunctions Model Below .)

Everything in the book revolves around this model.

The author gives several exercises to help overcome each of the five dysfunctions.

Here is a sample exercise for concurring the “Absence of Trust”

Personal Histories Exercise: In less than an hour, a team can take the first steps toward developing trust. This low risk exercise requires nothing more than going around the table during a meeting and having team members answer a short list of questions about themselves. Questions need not be overly sensitive in nature and might include the following: number of siblings, Hometown, unique challenges of childhood, favorite hobbies, first job, and worst job.  Simply by describing these relatively innocuous attributes or experiences, team members begin to relate to one another on a more personal basis, and see one another as human beings with life stories and interesting backgrounds. It is amazing how little some team members know about one another, and how just a small amount of information begins to break down barriers.

I think this model will help more than businesses it will work for  relationships too!

The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

By Patrick Lencioni

Here is a quote from my boss:

“If you don’t tell people where you came from they will

never appreciate where you are.” -Billy Hornsby

He was talking to pastors who don’t share their story. Who aren’t true and transparent with their staff and congregation. Does the same rule apply for blogging? If you share your story will people appreciate you?
Guess I’ll give it a try. Here goes nutt’n.
Where I came from:
  • My story begins like all others… In the womb
  • Age 1 was celebrated with whole wheat cake. Yogurt and honey for icing!
    • I was a healthy kiddo
  • 2 & 4 Many hours rolling in the mud
  • 5 Learn to ride dirtbike (honda Z 50)
  • 6-10 A lot of spankings
    • A whole lot.  I still hold 2 records
    • 1. 10 spankings b4 breakfast
    • 2. Most broken hairbrushes
  • 12 Learn to drive Stick
    • Its normal when your raised on a ranch
  • 13 First time to go hunting
    • Killed a 9 pointer that year
  • 14 Motorcycle License!
    • Should have joined a biker gang.
Are you starting to appreciate where I am now?

Socrates set a high goal for all of us when he said, “Know thyself.”

Over the past few weeks I have been trying to do just that; trying to know myself better.  Over my next few post, I want to share what that journey has looked like for me.

Step 1: Take a test.

Two weeks ago I took a test out of a book called Strength Finder 2.0.

I think the guys that write these test must be experts in flattery.  Or maybe I just like reading stuff that describes me.  I liked all of them except strength 1. It didn’t sit well with me (I’ll explain later) but I agree with the results. And love the book/test.  You should get the book and take the test!

A brief exclamation of each of my strengths:

Achiever

People who are especially talented in the Achiever theme have a great deal of stamina and work hard. They take great satisfaction from being busy and productive.

Focus

People who are especially talented in the Focus theme can take a direction, follow through, and make the corrections necessary to stay on track. They prioritize, then act.

Input

People who are especially talented in the Input theme have a craving to know more. Often they like to collect and archive all kinds of information.

Positivity

People who are especially talented in the Positivity theme have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.

Individualization

People who are especially talented in the Individualization theme are intrigued with the unique qualities of each person. They have a gift for figuring out how people who are different can work together productively.

3 Tips for Improvement

1. Your mind is open and absorbent. You naturally soak up information in the same way that a sponge soaks up water. But just as the primary purpose of the sponge is not to permanently contain what it absorbs, neither should your mind simply store information. Input without output can lead to stagnation. As you gather and absorb information, be aware of the individuals and groups that can most benefit from your knowledge, and be intentional about sharing with them.

2. Deliberately increase your vocabulary. Collect new words, and learn the meaning of each of them.
Identify situations in which you can share the information you have collected with other people. Also make sure to let your friends and colleagues know that you enjoy answering their questions.

3. Your presentations and speaking opportunities will be most engaging when you relate your topic to the experiences of individuals in the audience. Use your Individualization talents to gather and share real-life stories that will make your points much better than would generic information or theories.

They gave me a HUGE list of tips for improvement. Those are just my favorite.

When I’m reading I like to take pictures of quotes that jump out at me.  Here is one about FEAR:

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This is from John Maxwell.

axiom-bill-hybelsLanguage Matters.

Learned:  Your effectiveness as a leader will hinge on something as “inconsequential” as word choice.

Action:  Spend more time developing my vocabulary.

Take Away: John Maxwell speaks and everyone writes it down. Chris Rock says, “One word is going to be the difference in how big your laugh is.” (Nov Sky Magazine pg 62.)  How much time was spent on the line “Real life change happens in the context of relationship”  so that Hunter in my small group would be quoting pastor Chris Hodges.

Thinking that getting the general idea across will be good enough is no longer good enough for me.  If great leaders focus on their words then I will too.

Making the Big Ask.

“Asking is a significant part of Hybels leadership role.” Pg 21

2. Learned:  “The ask” only gets bigger as you grow in ministry.  Focus on growth in this area or your ministry will not grow.  Asking  can build relationships.    If done right, you honor the other person by asking.

2. Action: Use this chapter when talking about the “Big Ask” with church planters.  Be a better asker.

Speed of the Leader, Speed of the Team

3. Learned:   Leaders must never expect from others anything more than they’re willing to deliver themselves.   When someone wonders how joyful they should be in their jobs, all they should have to do is observe the leaders level of joy.  If I can’t be joyful then those I lead will not be either.

3. Action:  Like John Maxwell says, “I must first learn to lead myself well.”

Bill Hybels’ Style

4. Learned: These Axioms are  Hybels life experiences.  The book wasn’t some theory “if you do x then y.”  He used stories from his life to show why he leads the ways he does.

4. Action: Use stories when coaching church planters.

Admit Mistakes, and Your Stock Goes Up

5. Learned:  When something goes wrong admit it and take responsibility for it.  Admitting your mistakes says something about your integrity as a leader.  Early on he felt like he had to prove himself. This lead to scrabbling behind the scenes and just made life harder. Now he just shoots straight as soon as he realizes he screwed up.  It shows his confidence as a leader.

5. Action:  Admit when I blow it.

Click here to purchase book.

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“1. Small things you do to serve your community can spread through social media.

2. Servant leadership can change your church.

3. Don’t hire someone that doesn’t have a heart to serve”

These were Dino Rizzo’s three points during his break out session at All Access’09.  All of the pastors at this conference are talking about doing things online to reach people.

Here are a few points that stuck out to me-

Point 1:

16 years = 6000 days

“Healing place has had 16 Christmases & 16 Easters. 16 yr of BIG Events. However, 95% of church time is spent doing the small things. Return emails, write thank you cards, having church, doing hospital visits. These are what make Healing Place what it is today. ”

Point 2.

The power of serving.  “Serving will reach people more effectively than that the big stuff. Serving brings something common to all generations and races. Facebook, twitter [social media] can cut through barriers to get the word out about serving and outreach.”

Reaching the world by serving One – Our Motto.

Every moment, no matter how small, is what  leads to more.   Faithful in the little you get to do more. -Jesus

The Little events are what make your church.

Start with a biblical outreach idea.  “Helping Widows”

She doesn’t need prayer, she needs a Ford truck- They had the idea to move single moms for free

Point 3.

Have you ever done that?

Idea: Marry people for free.  Anyone. Church or not church. Give them free marriage counseling.

Just add value to people!

Dino Rizzo has written a great book on serving call Servolution. Check his book here.

20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. –Mark Twain

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Don’t disappoint yourself… Do something!

Or you might end up like this…

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